I wrapped up our call by asking Bruce what do he wanted the world to know about Mr. Kulick.

“Well, you know, it was a lesson that the Rabbi took from that discussion with my mom.  This particular Rabbi – we had two of them at the service because even the one from the first place that they moved to in California came for the service which was really sweet and he spoke about my Dad at the burial site – he made a point about that kindness.

“You know, some people think that, if you’re kind to other people, it’s a sign of weakness. But, it’s not. The Rabbi was making a point that kindness is really a wonderful gift that they can give to each other. When I posted that on my Facebook page, somebody wrote, ‘Kindness is not weakness. Remember that.’ People were thinking powerful things.

“And, then, the people who you know are ‘not on the right page’, they’re either drinking or doing bad behavior, they’re problem is that they’re not kind to themselves, first. Because loving yourself gives you a tremendous capacity to love others and extend yourself. Some people, I think, because they realize that “I’m not good to myself but if I focus on helping an animal, my pet, my neighbor, my friends’ maybe it takes them away from their own pain. I think that you can be kind, with all good intentions, and there’s no ulterior motive except that you know it’s something that really helps the world.”

I was struck by those final comments.  When it’s all said and done, “kindness” is the legacy.  Mr. Kulick’s kindness to his co-workers, his business associates, doctors, nurses and guests is certainly a great legacy.  However, in the privacy of one’s home, when the family saw each other for what they really are, to be able to STILL say that Harry Kulick embodies “kindness”? What better legacy can a man leave his family but to inspire the same kind of love and kindness?

From where I sit, Harry Kulick sounds like he was the consummate rock star of dad’s.  I’m certain that his wife and sons think of him that way.

Shalom, Mr. Kulick.