When I was a little kid, say six or seven years old, we would go
to my grandparents in Madisonville, Tennessee. It was always full of unique surprises and experiences. For one, they had an indoor toilet and a potty-line, I mean, party
line phone service.
I know that you're
dying to hear what the deal was about the indoor toilet so I'll start with that part of the story.
See, my other set of grandparents lived about an hour north of Madisonville
in the little town of Maryville (locals pronounced it, "Mare-vul". ). They had regular phone service
- not a party line. However, they didn't have an indoor bathroom. At least, they didn't have one until
I was in third grade.
Yes, folks, they had
an outhouse! They were uptown, though, because they had a two-holer and toilet paper instead of catalogues. But
I digress.
I hated the outhouse. It
scared me to death. I somehow had the idea that if I sat down on one of the two holes, a monster would rise up and bite
me on the butt. While many things have wound up biting me on the butt in my life, a monster has never been one of them.
Not yet, anyway.
So, whenever we would be
in Mare-vul, and nature called on my tender young body, I would run to my Mom and say, "Let's go to Madisonville
NOW!" Since that wasn't very practical, I was forced, by necessity, to visit the outhouse . . . as fast as
I possibly could!
Where was I? Oh yeah!
Party lines!
Whenever we were in Madisonville,
and I didn't have to worry about getting eaten by the booty monster, I would hang out by the farmhouse's one telephone
which rested on a table in the entry hall. There I learned the fine art of eavesdropping as it was meant to be.
I learned to very gently pick up the phone and listen to the neighboring farm folks chat and gossip. Whenever they were
through, I would hang up and dutifully report the latest and greatest news to my grandmother.
Ah! Those were the days!
Fast-forward just a bit to those incredible days in the Seventies when, much to the chagrin
of commercial truckers everywhere, everybody and their brother had a CB radio. Remember those?
Well, my family didn't have one but one of my good friends, Steve
Matthews, and his family, had TWO of them. They had a base unit and one in the family car that Steve usually got to
drive whenever he wanted to.
On Friday
and Saturday nights, Steve would drive around the streets of Phoenix and chat with the other CB enthusiasts. Mr. Matthews
would stay at home and listen in on all the channels and catch up on gossip and news - not unlike the ol' party line in
Madisonville.
While nothing really important
was accomplished during those excursions on the airwaves, I did notice that there was a sense of community and belonging amongst
the CB-ers. You couldn't miss the camaraderie as chatter crackled through the air.
It was thoughts like these that flooded my mind as I joined Steve's family
eight years ago to bury him. If my memory serves me correctly, his parents found him at his computer as if he had fallen
asleep, his hand still resting on the mouse. It's likely that he was participating in the new millennium's version
of CB chatter: an online political chat room, which he always loved.
With Steve's family and friends commemorating the eighth anniversary of his passing this
week, I couldn't help but reflect on the power and importance of communication with friends.
The vast majority of us today are not members of the CB community. However,
we have much more mobile and efficient tools at our disposal to recreate those lost days of teenaged camaraderie. With
the internet, e-mail, texting, and unlimited long distance available to us, we can now track down friends from our youth and
rekindle friendships. I could go on forever about having experienced the incredible joy of finding friends from my ancient
past.
You say that you don't know where
to start? Try signing up with one of the online class reunion websites like Classmates.com or Mylife.com. You
can also trying tracking friends down through MySpace but my favorite is Facebook. Through those sites and internet
search engines, I've been able to track down countless grade school and high school friends (My personal best is finding
a friend from second grade - that's ‘66/'67 for those of you trying to do the math). You'll quickly find
that the bonds of friendship can actually grow stronger by reaching out and reconnecting with old friends
So, why don't you track down an old high school friend by one
of these "party lines"? If you're both living near each other, why not get together for coffee or a meal
to remember old times?
Who knows what
kind of convoy of friends you can round up?