The Trouble With Never

Written by Randy Patterson

Posted February 20, 2022

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From The Trouble With Never by Van Halen

It’s so easy to get in a rut. The older you get, the easier it is and the deeper the rut. I’m especially guilty of this. I am such a creature of habit on some things that I often find myself having trouble thinking outside of the box.

For instance, I always grab from the same group of pants and shirts in my closet even though I have a ton of other clothes (I’m a bit of a shirt whore, to be honest). I always eat at the same handful of places for dinner. I take the same route to my routine destinations. I shop at the same ol’ places and were the same ol’ things day in, day out.

It’s the same with listening to music. According to my iTunes collection, I have about 58.7 days of stuff that I can listen to.
Seriously. 58.7 days.

And that’s only the stuff that I have loaded into Apple Music. And, yet, when I feel like listening to something, I often find myself gravitating towards the same cluster of albums that I love listening to.

I know others who vacation much the same way. They go to “x” place somewhere in this vast world and do the same things. I live in the Great Smoky Mountains, and I’ve found that that’s especially true for those who visit here. They stay at the same places. Visit the same attractions. Ride the same rides or see the same shows. Then, when it’s all said and done, they complain about how much it cost and how tired they are.

And we wonder why we’re bored and restless.

To quote David Lee Roth in Van Halen’s The Trouble With Never: When was the last time you did something for the first time? When have you ventured out to see a kind of movie that you wouldn’t ordinarily see? Maybe you’ve never listened to classical music. How about seeing a stage show that you wouldn’t normally dream of seeing? Perhaps you’ve never visited the elderly, infirmed or imprisoned. Maybe you’ve never walked barefoot in a field or tasted food from a foreign land or even visited the land of its origin. Maybe it’s just as simple as doing your hair differently or not doing it at all.

There’s that old saying that says that variety is the spice of life. I challenge you to do something different. Maybe it’s the things I’ve just listed or maybe it’s as simple as listening – truly listening – to a different political point of view. Maybe switch to a different news channel to see what “the other side is saying”. Perhaps you might want to chat with someone of a different faith – not so that you can “convert them” or they you – but to understand where they are coming from.

Maybe this time is the next time you do something for the first time.